2,667. Having an Oath Permitted in Person

Hilchos Shevuos 6:4

One who took an oath must personally go to the Torah scholar to have it permitted; the same is true of both men and women. One may not send an agent to request permitting a vow but a husband may act as agent to convey his wife’s regret and have her oath permitted, although only so long as three judges had already convened. A man may not gather judges together to permit his wife’s oath. A man may not act as agent to have his wife’s vow permitted.

Hilchos Shevuos 6:5

An oath is permitted as follows: the one who took the oath must go before the Torah scholar or the three lay people when there’s no scholar. He says that he took an oath regarding such-and-such and he regrets doing so. Had he known that he would feel such pain, he never would have taken the oath, and had he known at the time he took oath what he knows now, he never would have done so. The scholar or the most prominent of the lay people asks if he has changed his mind and the one seeking release replies yes. The scholar or lay person then tells him that the subject of the oath is permitted to him, or released for him, or other words to this extent. However, if he says that the oath is nullified or other words expressing that idea, the statement is ineffective. This is because only a woman’s husband or father can nullify an oath. A Torah scholar must use words that reflect permitting or forgiving an oath.