2,249. Minimizing Intimacy

Hilchos Issurei Biah 21:10

One is prohibited to be intimate by candlelight. If he didn’t have another room available on Shabbos except one where a was light burning, he should abstain. Similarly, a Jew may not be intimate during the day because it’s considered brazen. If one is a Torah scholar who will not be inclined to make a habit of it, he may block out the light with his garments and be intimate, though one should only do so in a case of a great need. The holy practice is for one to be intimate in the middle of the night.

Hilchos Issurei Biah 21:11

The Sages aren’t pleased with one who engages in excessive sexual relations and is always after his wife like a rooster. This is a defect and is the way uncultured people behave. Rather, one who minimizes his sexual intimacy is praised, so long as he doesn’t neglect his conjugal duties without his wife’s consent. The only reason they originally enacted that a man who had a seminal emission shouldn’t read from the Torah without first immersing in a mikvah was to minimize sexual activity.