202. The Arayos – Sister-in-Law I: The prohibition against sexual relations with a brother's wife

Just as bedding one’s stepmother would be an affront to one’s father and intimacy with a daughter-in-law would be an affront to one’s son, engaging in sexual congress with a brother’s wife would be an affront to one’s brother. (In English, “sister-in-law” can mean a brother’s wife and a wife’s sister. Here, we will use the term to mean a brother’s wife.)

As with other cases of incest, this law applies to any brother, full or half- on either side, born in or out of wedlock. And, as with other incestuous relationships, the ban on a sister-in-law remains in effect in perpetuity, even if the marriage should be dissolved by death or divorce. There is one exception, however: the case of yibum (“levirate marriage”), in which a man marries his childless brother’s widow. We will discuss that mitzvah, however, when we come to parshas Ki Seitzei in Deuteronomy chapter 25. (It’s Mitzvah #598, so we have a way to go!)

This mitzvah applies in all times and places. It is discussed in the Talmud in tractate Yevamos on pages 54b-55a and is codified in the Shulchan Aruch in Even Ha’Ezer 15. This prohibition is #344 of the 365 negative mitzvos in the Rambam’s Sefer HaMitzvos and #126 of the 194 negative mitzvos that can be fulfilled today as listed in the Chofetz Chaim’s Sefer HaMitzvos HaKatzar.

The nakedness of your brother’s wife you shall not uncover… (Leviticus 18:16)

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