1,560. A Husband’s Conjugal Obligation

Hilchos Ishus 13:20

If a husband wants to move to Israel but his wife doesn’t, he can divorce her without paying the value of her kesubah; if she wants to move to Israel and he doesn’t, he must divorce her and pay her kesubah. The same is true when it comes to moving to Jerusalem from elsewhere in Israel. Just like one should move to Israel but not leave it, one should also move to Jerusalem but not leave it.

Hilchos Ishus 14:1

A husband’s conjugal obligation, which is required by the Torah, depends on his personal strength and the nature of his work. Healthy men of leisure who are not engaged in work that weakens them, but rather they eat, drink and remain at home, should fulfill their conjugal obligation every night. Regarding workmen like tailors, weavers, builders, etc., if they work in the city where they live, they should fulfill their conjugal obligation twice a week; if they work in a different city, once a week. Donkey drivers – once a week; camel drivers – once every 30 days; sailors – once every six months. Torah scholars should fulfill their conjugal obligation once a week because their study saps their strength. The accepted practice is for Torah scholars to have their weekly relations on Friday night.