I’m Never Wrong

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier

And Moshe said, “So said HASHEM, at approximately midnight, I will go out into Mitzraim”. Shemos 11:4

After a “natural” disaster, people speak with reverence. Even arrogant individuals, after living through a hurricane, tidal wave, or earthquake, have a sense of humility. Their reality has been changed, and they view life differently. Yet, when Pharaoh and Mitzraim experienced the makkos, that wasn’t their reaction.

The Egyptians lived through the most powerful manifestation of HASHEM’s might. For months, they were afflicted while HASHEM “played with Mitzraim.” Two points were made clear: HASHEM is the Master of Creation, and Moshe was the messenger of HASHEM. Everything that Moshe said would happen, happened — with precision and exactness.

Now, HASHEM told Moshe that the final, and most potent makkah, would come. “Tell Pharaoh that exactly at midnight, every first born in Mitzraim will die.” Yet when Moshe approached Pharaoh, he changed the message; he said at “approximately” midnight the firstborn will die.

Rashi is bothered by this. Why did Moshe change the words that HASHEM used? He answers that Moshe was afraid that Pharaoh’s astrologers would make a mistake. They would be watching the clock to see if Moshe’s prediction was accurate. Even though the firstborns would in fact, die exactly at the stroke of midnight, the astrologers might have the wrong time and mistakenly assume that it wasn’t midnight. They would then accuse Moshe of being a liar. To prevent this from happening, Moshe said, “approximately at midnight.”

How did they tell time in the Ancient world?

This Rashi is very difficult to understand when we take into account the historical reality.

Today, we live with an acute awareness of time. We have clocks all around us — in every room and in every car, on pens, microwaves, computers and cell phones. We can’t buy groceries or go to the bank without a date and time stamp adorning our receipts. We are constantly reminded of our point in time. And our chronometers are precise, down to the nanosecond. For under a hundred dollars, you can purchase a radio-synchronized, atomic clock that guarantees to be accurate to within a second every two thousand years! In short, we have good reason to assume that our sense of timekeeping is accurate.

How accurate were the time pieces in ancient Egypt?

However, this wasn’t the way the ancient world kept time. During the day, they used a sundial, which might have been somewhat close to almost accurate — sort of. At night, the only way to tell time was by gazing at the stars. Without computer aided optics, measuring objects light years away is highly inaccurate—at best.

Even if the Egyptians prided themselves on ingenuity and advancements, they had to know that they were mostly likely wrong when it came to accurately knowing when midnight was. If so, why would the Mitzrim assume that they were right and Moshe was wrong? If everything he had said up until then had been true, and they didn’t have a reliable way to know what time it was, why should they assume they were right and he was wrong?

Answer: we humans don’t like to be wrong.

The answer to this question is based on a quirk in human nature: we assume that we are right—whether our opinion is justified or not – and we don’t want to hear otherwise. The ironic part of this is that we assume we are right whether we have really thought out our position or not. We assume we are right whether we really have evidence to the facts or it just happens to be the first thing that came to mind. We assume that our position, whatever it might be, is correct. It’s just a given. And it is very difficult to get us to change our minds. Facts aren’t that influential. Reality isn’t that convincing. Once someone’s mind is made up, that’s just the way it is. We are heedless in the formation of our opinions, but once they are formed, we defend them as if our very lives depended upon it.

The Mitzrim are a fantastic illustration of this concept. Moshe was afraid that if there was a discrepancy between his time and theirs, they would assume they were right and he was wrong. Even though he had proven himself again and again, even though all the other details about the firstborn dying were completely correct, there wouldn’t have even been a question in their minds. If they determined it was precisely 11:45, fifteen minutes before the prescribed time, and the firstborns started dying, clearly Moshe was a liar. Because of this, Moshe used the expression approximately so that they shouldn’t come to this mistake.

The application to our lives       

This concept has great relevance to us on a personal level. What happens when someone points out that I did something that was incorrect? Am I able to deal with the concept that maybe I am wrong? Am I able to swallow the thought that I made a mistake? Part of becoming a bigger person is the ability to be teachable, to be big enough to understand that not everything I thought of is right. And not everything that someone else says is automatically wrong just because it isn’t my way. If a person wants to grow, some of the most critical words that they need to train themselves to say are:  Maybe I’m wrong. I have been wrong before. Let me look at it again…

When a person opens himself up to the idea that he may have erred, he becomes far more pleasant, far more agreeable, and is on the path to true growth.