7. When is Lying Permitted? (Part 1)

Dedicated by Fran Broder as a zechus for the hostages to be released safely to their families and may everlasting peace come to Eretz Yisrael in the merit of learning Hilchot Bein Adam L’Chaveiro

1.        One is permitted to lie in order to promote peace or prevent conflict between individuals, but only when necessary (Yevamot 65b). This includes cases of family or marital relationships. However, one should try to use wording that does not involve an outright lie but can be understood in multiple manners (Halichot Bein Adam L’chavero 20:24).

2.        For example, a secretary at work may tell a caller who wishes to speak to the manager that the manager is unavailable at the moment even if he/she is available but does not wish to speak to the caller. (Titen Emet L’yaakov, citing Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach). Additionally, one would be allowed to say to one’s spouse or family member that they are a wonderful cook even if the dish they prepared does not taste good, to avoid hurting their feelings (Titen Emet L’yaakov, p.104).